It's something that we rarely talk about even with our closest friends, but let's face it we have all "Polished the pearl" or "Jilled off" - (note to self, I love sexual euphemisms). Some of us are even ashamed to do it at all. That's probably because society still encourages guilt and shame about masturbation - it's simply something that "good girls shouldn't do". Well, to hell with that train of thought!
Good girl do masturbate, and they love doing so.
You should be asking the question, why not do it? It feels fantastic, has excellent health benefits and relieves stress so why wouldn't anyone want to stop everything they are doing and get themself off.
I want to break down some of the myths around masturbation and to prove to you that it's a totally positive experience. Everyone's body is unique, and your way of masturbation will probably be different from mine, but that doesn't matter as there is no right or wrong way to do it. So here are some quick and simple reasons why you should be doing it.
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I know that I love the idea, and one evening while watching TV I saw the adverts from TopCashBack.co.uk and thought to myself - I wonder if it would work for sex toys?
Well, as the old saying goes, curiosity killed the cat. But in my case, curiosity saved me some hard cash - woohoo!
A post on smartstim about vacuum sounding got my interest, and I decided after reading some of the comments that I should document building such an electrode to help others make one.
So, credit to miralicious90 on smartstim.com for his fantastic idea and 3D design. I love his simple design, but I have decided to push it a little.
In this article, I am going to take you step by step through the process of making your own DIY penis vacuum enlarger coupled with an e-stim sounding electrode. So you can make your cock bigger and harder than ever before while sounding and using e-stim at the same time.
If that sounds like fun, then read on. See just how easy it is to create something like this yourself.
"Bloody hell, this is one serious piece of kit. The feeling of your cock swelling and the sound sliding into you is extremely intense and once the e-stim control box is switched on it blows your socks off. It is an amazing experience, and one hell of a ride."Joanne's Stunt Cock
This is quite a long article and so here are some quick links if you want to skip to a particular section.
Two months ago, VRPorn.com announced that it has officially surpassed 100 million users.
That is a lot of kinky people looking for VR Porn. Any website would be more than happy with that sort of traffic. But remember this is a site catering solely for VR Porn and it makes that statistic all the more impressive.
It shows you just how far this porn niche has grown, now becoming much more mainstream than niche. More and more people are discovering how highly erotic VR porn can be.
With the cost of equipment is coming down almost monthly, it is now more affordable than ever to dip your toes into the VR Porn scene.
Recently Playstation announced that they've sold 4.2 million PSVR systems as of March 2019. While HTC and Oculus are more protective over their exact sales numbers, they are likely to both also be in the same ballpark.
I don't need to preach to anyone about how times can be hard and even if you haven't got much spare cash we all need some excitement in our lives.
By excitement, I mean the sexual kind (that's the best type anyway).
You might think that body-safe sex toys are the realm of fantasy if you are on a budget.
But, I am happy to be able to prove that myth wrong with some inspiring examples of great body safe sex toys available on a budget.
So, your piggy bank can stop shaking in fear, let me show you how you can have a good old wank on a budget.
I am often asked which is the best cock milking machines. I am going to tell you all about three that I know are out of this world. They ain't cheap, but with sex machines, you do indeed get what you pay for.
So for anyone who has stumbled upon this page and is now thinking "what the heck is a cock milking machine", read on to find out what these fantastic machines can do.
First off, I can pretty much guarantee that at least 90% of the people reading this post will have either never heard of a DDLG relationship or have lots of misconceptions about them.
"I love to enter littlespace as it is so relaxing and I can do the things I really enjoy doing"sub'r'
So, what is DDLG? It is an acronym for Daddy Dom / Little Girl, but before you take a deep intake of breath through clamped teeth read on to find out what it is really like.
I hope to dispell a lot of myths about this form of BDSM relationship within this post, so please do bear with me. So read on to learn more about this form of BDSM play.
Chastity is a subject that elicits all sorts of emotions in people, disgust, confusion, excitement. What is it about the act of physically locking out your ability to have sex or to masturbate that appeals to the lovers of chastity?
"Chastity - The state or practice of refraining from extramarital, or especially from all, sexual intercourse."Oxford English Dictionary
I intend to find out and to shed light on this kinky activity, as it is something that intrigues me and turns me on at the same time.
So read on to find out more about chastity and orgasm denial to see if it is for you or to satisfy your curiosity.
It was raining hard, and I was starting to regret my decision to visit a swingers club with my partner. As I walked to the door as my nerves were seriously kicking in. The walk from the sizeable off-street carpark to the clubs doors seemed to take ages, but I was glad I had brought a brolly with me.
This was my first visit to a swingers club, and while I knew what to expect, nerves were taking their toll on my resolve to go through with it. When we arrived at the large purple doors, it was a choice of brave the rain again or go inside. I bit the bullet and stepped inside.
Opening the door had us entering a sort of airlock with a little window through which we paid our entrance fee before being buzzed in. We had stopped by the Attic club in Derby as it is relatively local to us and I wanted to see what swingers clubs were like on the inside.
Three years ago the amazing guys over at E-Stim Systems got in touch asking if I would be interested in reviewing some of their e-stim equipment. I had to be honest as I had never even heard of estim or electrosex (sheltered upbringing I guess LOL). Anyway, they sent me my first e-stim control box and electrode set the fantastic Series 1, and I was instantly hooked. I had never had a hands free orgasm in my life, and as I enjoy some light BDSM play, it fitted in with that style of fun as well. I cannot recommend that everyone should give it a go, what have you got to lose?
Anyway, this page is the hub of everything e-stim related, and it provides links to the three main areas of my electrosex activities. Reviews, advice articles and DIY self-builds. There are also some handy quick links on the left of this page - the links with the stripey background, you can't miss them >>>
The Sybian is a legend in its own right, for 30 years it has been providing hard orgasms to women all around the world.
It's without a doubt the most powerful vibrator that I have ever had the privilege of having between my legs but getting the most out of it requires some thought and lots of practice.
It's all too easy just to straddle it and then really ramp up the power too quickly but that will leave you sore and probably a little jaded about its capabilities. Instead, follow these simple steps to ensure that you get the most out of a Sybian.
Well, they're made for loving and nurturing actually. The most amazingly fantastic thing about nipples is that we all have them. They are also definitely under stimulated in lots of us. I am talking directly to you, penis owners.
Yes, penis owners, nipple play is not just for us vaginistas. You can enjoy some tweaking, clamping and sucking play as well. Trust me you may want to take notes, this may come as a shock to you.
I'm going to cover some of the great ways that we can pleasure our twin love buddies. I'm also going to suggest some further reading for anyone looking to give take their play to the next level.
Firstly though let's just talk about what nipples are and what makes them so much fun.
There are hundreds of nerve endings in a nipple and that makes them very sensitive to sensation play. This makes them hot spots for pleasure in all genders. Research has shown that nipples stimulation can mimic the same responses in the brain caused by direct genital stimulation.
That means they have a hotline to the pleasure centre of your brain. So it's hardly surprising then that so many people get aroused when their nipples are touched. With the right stimulation, you can experience an orgasm through nipple stimulation alone.
This diagram shows the basic biology of the breast and nipple through the medium of chocolate. It is common to all genders.
Here are a few ideas for nipple play together with products that I have reviewed. I will also include some links to relevant products for that style of play.
We can all enjoy some self-stimulation or stimulation by our partners using our hands and fingers. Try gently running a fingertip around your areola, then use your fingernail to see the different sensations.
Try adding some lube or saliva into the equation for some slippery nipple fun. Warm yourself up using your fingers first before even considering any equipment.
The most sensitive parts are first the nipple, followed by the areola and then the breast tissue. Stimulate and rub all three areas.
Squeeze your nipples, twist your nipples. Basically, give them a good going over. Some people enjoy having them squeezed rhythmically whilst others enjoy a little twisting action. Experiment to see what gets you aroused. Your nipples will fill with blood as you play with them causing them to get harder and erect just like a penis does.
Having a mouth exploring your nipples can feel incredible. A wet tongue feels delicious teasing your nipple or circling your areola. Gently sucking on an erect nipple can also be mindblowing, You can even use your teeth to gently scrape and nibble on a nipple.
Go gently though as they are very sensitive. Often if you have large breasts you can self-stimulate your nipples this way. If you can't do that then you will need the help of a partner. Oral nipple stimulation is one of my favourite activities, both giving and receiving.
Always ask someone before biting or nibbling and start with your teeth closer to the breast. Use your teeth around the areola rather than the tip of the nipple to start with and go gently listening to your partner.
You can use any vibrator on your nipples, try stimulating the areola and well as the nipple itself and you will enjoy some fantastic sensations.
As your nipples get harder so the sensations will change and your nipples will get more sensitive.
I'm talking hot and cold here, having your partner drink a cold drink before sucking your nipples. Alternatively get them to drink a hot drink or alternate for some very diverse sensations. You can use icecubes for nipple play but keep it moving and don't do it for too long otherwise you risk a cold injury. Temperature play can be a lot of fun especially if you are restrained.
You can add some fun whilst sucking on a nipple by wetting it then blowing on it to chill it. Then suck it into your mouth to warm it up again. This simple technique works wonders for some quick temperature play. Top Tip - try it down below as well the next time you go down on a wet pussy.
Now we're talking some serious fun, you know you mean business when play needs equipment. Clamping a nipple can feel exquisite or painful depending on how it's done. If you don't like it intense then place the clamp behind the nipple so that it clamps the areola. For more intense stimulation clamp the nipple directly. With any sort of clamping always release the pressure regularly so that blood can flow back into the tissue.
A simple peg is often the first thing people use on their nipples and these can feel good. You can then move on to purpose made nipple clamps made out of plastic, metal or even wood. One I love the nipple sticks made by Kink Craft, I have reviewed a set of these and they not only look stunning but they feel great. They are also adjustable. I have also used a nipple stick to clamp my clitoris and that was amazing.
The header of this article features a set of spring-loaded crocodile clips with bells attached. This style of clamp is popular for a reason - they work well and they sound great too. This type of clamp often has screws so that you can adjust the strength of the clamping action.
You can get nipple clamps attached to gags such as the O-ring Gag & Nipple Clamps that I recently reviewed. For some really intense play, you can try magnetic nipple orbs, be warned though that these magnets are very strong.
When you remove a clamp the blood rushes back into the nipple and this feels very intense and is my favourite part of the clamping process.
Taking having your nipples sucked to the extreme can be a lot of fun and using a nipple sucker can feel very intense. It's also a visual treat as the nipple and areola engorge with blood. They expand to a much larger size than they would normally do. When the suction is released the swelling stays and this makes your nipples much more sensitive.
Nipples come in all shapes and sizes and yours will be perfectly normal no matter what shape they are. That said though you should regularly check your breasts and nipples for changes. Seeking medical advice if you are worried about anything at all to do with them.
Nipple play may not be everybody's kettle of fish but if you don't try it you can't say that it isn't for you. I strongly suggest that the next time you masturbate you include some nipple play. Who knows, it may give you the best orgasm of your life.
Why not add a comment below to let me know how you prefer to have your nipples stimulated, that way you can give ideas and help to other readers.
As you are reading this I can assume that you want to improve your sex life and why not? Everyone has the ability to add a bit of spice into their love-life. Well these ten tips are for all genders and hopefully they will give you some ideas and if it helps then great. If you have any other suggestions then why not add a comment at the bottom of this article.
So sit back, get comfy and prepare to take all of this on board.
Never underestimate the power of a good lube. I always use lube when masturbating and it makes things so much more enjoyable. Penis owners can also enjoy a good lube too.
It also has some health benefits as well as it can prevent damage to your delicate mucous membranes.
It does make a difference and it feels so good when you add just a little bit of lube it can change how everything feels. Always go for a good quality water based lube and be careful of ones with harmful additives.
This excellent Big Lube Guide is written by Dangerous Lily and shows you what to avoid.
Bring some sex toys into the bedroom, you don't have to get too kinky. Why not try experimenting with a vibrator or dildo. Lots of couples enjoy bringing sextoys into their sex lives and it's a great way to pleasure each other. Talk through your likes and boundaries so that you both know what each other likes.
Or maybe try using a blindfold for some tie tease fun. Check out my beginners guide to Bondage for some other tips.
It isn't a race, taking your time can both help to build up the excitement and also make your orgasms stronger. Foreplay is often undervalued or even skipped but it's a powerful tool that anyone can use.
Take your time to pleasure your partner or even just tease yourself. Caress, kiss and rub your partners erogenous zones to watch their excitement build.
Taking time on foreplay can make your orgasms much more satisfying. Whilst an orgasm isn't the be all and end all getting there can be so much fun.
This one is a must, try masturbating with a glove on or give your partner a massage with oils. Experiment with sensation play, maybe chill a dildo or vibe in the fridge before using it.
Have some fun with each others erogenous zones with an ice cube, you will be surprised how cold things can be so hot.
Try breathing on your partners skin, the back of the neck is a great spot as is the nipples and genitals. Warm breath can feel incredibly sensual and it can ramp up the excitement.
Masturbation isn't dirty or un-natural, it's actually a a lot of fun and everyone does it. Masturbating even has health benefits.
Masturbation is a great opportunity to learn about your body. You can experiment and learn how areas of your body respond to different stimulus.
You can also use masturbation as a way to increase your stamina.
So get polishing the pearl you clitoris owners or doing the five knuckle shuffle for penis owners.
You can't have great sex without consent! It stands to reason as sex without consent is abuse or rape.
Talk with your partner if you want to try something new. Don't be shy about it, you never know they may have been thinking about it too.
Don't overstep your marks, if you agree to try something new then take it slowly and stick to the agreed plan.
This one can be a lot of fun even if you are on your own. If there's something that you have always fancied trying then go for it. There is nothing stopping you from living out your fantasies and if you involve your partner then you can both enjoy them together.
For couples, why not agree to take it in turns to live out each others fantasies.
This can be a great way to have amazing sex as it's things that you have already fantasised about.
If you've read the books or seen the 50 Shades of Grey films then why not try sometie tease fun and games or light bondage.
Put your phone on standby. There is nothing worse than a phone ringing as you are grabbing the sheets and about to orgasm. It can be a real mood killer.
Take things a step further try having sex in a new location away from the stresses of everyday life. Book into a hotel room or send the kids to stay with their grandparents to give you some freedom.
Now you can get porn on the internet more easily than you can order clothes so why not try watching some together.
Now I am not talking the kinky hardcore stuff (unless you are both into it). Choose something run of the mill the first time that you watch porn together.
Take turns selecting what you watch. This can be very enlightening and you can learn a lot about your partners tastes.
Why not try copying what you see and trying to keep up with the position changes and activities.
Something as simple as being called a "slut" can get me excited. Try talking dirty to each other. It may feel very clumsy the first time you do it but practice makes perfect.
Dirty talk can help to build up the suspense and excitement. Whisper in your partners ear during foreplay what you are going to do to him/her and enjoy the effect.
It is worth discussing words that you or your partner don't like. I hate the word "cunt" for example during normal conversations. But if my partner whispers in my ear something like "I'm going to shove my cock up your cunt" I will quite literally melt.
Words have power and they can be very sexual.
Great sex when not is a mutual activity unless you are masturbating. Think of your partner and try to give them the most pleasure that you can. It will be reciprocated and you get what you give in the bedroom.
Don't be that person that wants to get him/herself off and once they have cum then that's it. Be a good lover and aim to get your partner off before you do. Better still try to have your orgasms coincide.
There is nothing hotter than a good old mutual orgasm, it bonds you and is amazing.
In summary, these are some tips that you can try to improve your sex life. Take your time and don't just fixate on the orgasm, treat it as just a destination. It's the journey there that is the most fun so enjoy it and try to arrive there with your partner at the same time.
If you have entertained thoughts of experimenting in some BDSM fun and games then first let me tell you that you are in fact entirely normal. Did you know that in a recent YouGov poll (Feb 2016) it appears that a staggering 12.7 million Brits have been tied up or have fantasised about the activity? Well it's true and also pretty comforting, so you are definitely not alone.
It now seems that Bristol is the BDSM Capital of the UK (source express.co.uk) having snatched that salubrious title from Penrith in Cumbria last year.
Eighteen per cent of the country have been tied up during sex, and another 19 per cent say they haven’t been, yet - but would love to try it. So what are you waiting for, dip your toes into the turbid waters of the BDSM community.
Bondage has always been in our awareness, and it features heavily in erotic novels and even classical art. More recently the 5o Shades Of Grey books have really raised awareness (often in the wrong way), and it has been cited as one of the main reasons for the growth of the activity globally. Its mainstream media coverage has lead to open discussions of BDSM and has allowed lots of people to admit to their desires and interest in these activities.
So just what is BDSM and why is it so enticing?
For years I shied away from having anal sex, telling myself that it was too painful and that it wasn't for me. That was in part because of some failed attempts in the past that involved pain and that really put me off but since starting to review sex toys I decided to revisit this often taboo sex practice to see if it really could be pain free.
I am delighted to tell you that it can be and that I now thoroughly enjoy it reveling in the fact that my back door swings both ways now.
"For most of my life I used to have just a backdoor, but now I've got a saloon-door back there".Joanne
So what is the big secret to pain free buggery? Well it isn't very complicated at all and most of it is in fact common sense and in this article I hope to pass on my experiences to hopefully make it as enjoyable for you as I find it.
Anyone who reads my reviews knows that I absolutely adore the folks over at KinkCraft.co as they produce an amazing line of kinky kits and products. They started off with the mission statement - "If there is one thing better than really good kinky toys, it is really good kinky toys you made yourself. We want to teach you everything you need to know to make your own toys and have a lot of fun doing it".
I can certainly attest to the fact that their kits are excellent quality and a heck of a lot of fun to make up, even for someone with hand problems as I have. So far I have had the pleasure of reviewing the following products for them:
But enough about their amazing kits and kinky products that I have reviewed, what I really want to talk to you about is their stunning new line of Plus Sized Hand Made Latex Dresses. It is just so hard to find decent quality latex products when you are a big girl and I am so pleased that Pixie from KinkCraft has designed this range of amazing looking dresses. Having spoken to her last year at the ETO (Erotic Trade Online) show where she hinted at the new line of products I was blown away when I saw them. They also have some great new plus sized products in the pipeline but I will not steal their thunder, keep an eye on their site to see the new developments.
One thing that the brand name of KinkCraft is synonymous with is the quality materials that they use coupled with their impeccable attention to detail and both of these shine through in the new range.
Launching a product line aimed fairly and squarely at plus sized women is a very ballsy move and one that pleases me so much. KinkCraft are movers and shakers, they are out to make a big impact on the industry and they just keep coming up with innovative products and designs. I can't wait to see what they come up with next. This great team deserve some attention and support.
I have some latex dresses and kinky outfits (no surprise there I guess) but they came from WestwardBound when they had a range of plus sized dresses and outfits but they cut that line and I vowed never to buy anything from them again. Intelligent companies should be clamouring to provide for plus sized ladies as lets face it the average sizes are going up and not down so it always upsets me when the big players in the industry show their true colours and stop supporting plus sized clothing. This is another reason why I have a soft spot for KinkCraft they are doing something about the problem of a lack of choice for plus sized women, so good on them.
So, if you want to feast your eyes on quality hand made plus sized clothing then what are you waiting for, get yourself over to KinkCraft and don't forget to tell them Joanne says "Hi!"
You would be forgiven for thinking that this blog post is about really, really bad sex toys but it isn't. You see a sex toy can suck and that can be a very good thing when I am talking about the range of products from Satisfyer.
I have been sent three new vibrators to review and all of them suck, in a good way I hasten to add. What I mean is that as well as vibrating they actually suck gently or vigorously on your clitoris and ladies having experienced it myself I was left wondering why it has taken so long to develop this amazing style of vibrator. The suction adds and incredible new twist to these vibrators and they are actually better in the bath than out of it as the feelings are more intense when they are used underwater.
I have had some amazing orgasms with these toys and have actually enjoyed an orgasm in under 20 seconds which even for me is a new record. My reviews will be going up very soon but as I say a sex toy can suck and still be an amazing toy.
The ElectroHelix or Helix for short is a replacement for their longest running and extremely popular Series 1 control box (read my review of one here). The Helix is a smaller unit that is packed full of some great new features included some of the program modes featured in their last release, the ElectroPebble. It has the old favourites such as the 'Fire' button that can be used to shock and tease together with a new 'Sports' mode where the output power is increased for those needing a bit more kick in their e-stim play.
To say that I am now looking forward to going to bed early tonight would be an understatement, watch out for my review which will be coming soon.
I have been reviewing sex toys, fucking machines and e-stim equipment for three and a half years now and have developed quite an eclectic taste for the more unusual toys and products that are at the top of their leagues.
Try as I might though I just can't get everything in for review and even though I often buy my own products to review the bank manager looks down on me when I go on a sexy spending spree and that is why I haven't reviewed these items - yet that is as I live in hope.
These products are the ones that got away you could say. The products that I just haven't been able to review but they are also the products that I really, really want to review as I want to experience them for myself but I also want to share that experience with others.
So without further ado, these are the products that flick my switch at the moment and that I would love to get the opportunity to review at some time (hint, hint if you are a manufacturer or a retailer who stocks them).
I was asked to write a guest blog article by the lovely people over at KinkCraft about reviewing sex toys. So I tried to get everything that I do down on paper to dispell the myth that reviewing sex toys is just an easy way to get free sex toys - it isn't, trust me on this one as I know what I am talking about here.
I was amazed when the ever so talented Amy Gardener who does all of the blog post header pics at KinkCraft agreed to base the articles header image on my little old avatar and I was blown away with her creation which you can see above.
Well what are you waiting for, get yourself over to KinkCraft to read my article there and whilst there check out their amazing kits and products of course. I have reviewed several and found them both a lot of fun and very functional.