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Experiencing Burning Or Stinging When Stimming?

Here are some pointers to smooth things out a bit

Stinging or burning is often caused by either having too much power going through an electrode or having your electrode too small. Other things can also create this sort of problem, and I will cover those later in this article.

Here are some pointers to bear in mind with different styles of electrode.

My First Visit To A Swingers Club

The night I popped my swingers club cherry at The Attic in Derby

It was raining hard, and I was starting to regret my decision to visit a swingers club with my partner as I walked to the door as my nerves were kicking in. The walk from the sizeable off-street carpark to the clubs doors seemed to take ages, but I was glad I had brought a brolly with me.

This was my first visit to a swingers club, and while I knew what to expect, nerves were taking their toll on my resolve to go through with it. When we arrived at the large purple doors, it was a choice of brave the rain again or go inside. I bit the bullet and stepped inside.

Opening the door had us entering a sort of airlock with a little window through which we paid our entrance fee before being buzzed in. We had stopped by the Attic club in Derby as it is relatively local to us and I wanted to see what swingers clubs were like on the inside.

EStim Resources

This page is the hub of everything estim related on this site

Three years ago the amazing guys over at E-Stim Systems got in touch asking if I would be interested in reviewing some of their e-stim equipment. I had to be honest as I had never even heard of estim or electrosex (sheltered upbringing I guess LOL). Anyway, they sent me my first e-stim control box and electrode set the fantastic Series 1, and I was instantly hooked. I had never had a hands free orgasm in my life, and as I enjoy some light BDSM play, it fitted in with that style of fun as well. I cannot recommend that everyone should give it a go, what have you got to lose?

Anyway, this page is the hub of everything e-stim related, and it provides links to the three main areas of my electrosex activities. Reviews, advice articles and DIY self-builds. There are also some handy quick links on the left of this page - the links with the stripey background, you can't miss them >>>

Quality Versus Quantity

So what's best for your blog?

You probably won't be surprised by the answer to that question. The temptation is to try to fill your blog with as many articles as possible in order to make it look full and healthy but that can be a double edged sword.

Visitors will mostly find your site through the big search engines and they all use metrics to work out which are the best pages to display when someone places a search through them. They are all in the business of providing what they think is exactly what the person doing the search is looking for and one of the most important metric for that is 'bounce rate'.

Other metrics that they monitor is how long visitors stay on your site. These two metrics are important indicators to a search engine as to how good the page is that they served in relation to the search terms used. Lets face it we have all done it, you do a search land on a webpage and you hit the back button. Search engines notice that and it's one of the main reasons why you need to be writing engaging articles that hold a readers attention and keeps them from hitting that back button.

That is of course easier said than done, so what should you be doing to try to write quality articles as if they aren't of a good quality then readers are just going to bounce away. The following pointers will also help your pages get listed higher on search engines but it's the quality of the page that really counts.

Using Affiliate Links On Your Blog

Do you want to make some money from your blog?

So you have a blog and you've been working hard in order to fill it with interesting and relevant content, your traffic is starting to build and you are looking at ways of monetising your blog in order to offset your costs or to put some money in your back pocket.

Firstly, making a blog pay for itself is a long and slow slog and it certainly isn't a get rich quick scheme. That said though with some hard work and dedication you'll start to see a return on your time and effort. The easiest way of monetising your blog is simply to use affiliate partnerships with retailers and this article is specifically written to give you the low down and also to keep you clear of the law as you do have some obligations if you are using affiliate links.

Hosted Or Self Hosting?

You'll need to decide where to host your blog

One of the biggest decisions that you will have to make is how and where you host your blog and you basically have two main choices. Setting up your blog is actually quite easy but it does require a bit of work on your part. Each hosting option has its own pros and cons which I will discuss below. You will also need to make a decision as to if you want to throw some money at your blog to help establish it or if you want to go the free route to try it out before you commit.

Personal Safety And Privacy

Your safety and privacy are primary concerns

This subject is so important that it deserves its own article and I hope that this opens your eyes and also answers any questions or doubts that you have about running a sex blog. As with most things sex related discretion is key. Especially in this day and age where people are all too keen and quick to judge others. It's therefore of tantamount importance that you understand the concerns and risks involved whilst also knowing how to keep yourself safe whilst preserving your privacy.

Got A Great Idea For A Sex Blog?

Are you wondering if you should take that next step?

Well why not go for it, sex blogging is so much fun and also very liberating. It can help you express yourself and to grow in confidence. It can also help other people on their journey through life to improve their own sex lives with the benefit of your wisdom and advice. Blogging about sex is a great way to express yourself and it can be done anonymously as lets face it most of us wouldn't have it any other way. I have written a seperate article on privacy and personal safety as it's such an important subject and that's well worth checking out.

The Sybian Riders Guide

Getting the most bang for your buck with a Sybian

The Sybian is a legend in its own right, for 30 years it has been providing hard orgasms to women all around the world.

It's without a doubt the most powerful vibrator that I have ever had the privilege of having between my legs but getting the most out of it requires some thought and lots of practice.

It's all too easy just to straddle it and then really ramp up the power too quickly but that will leave you sore and probably a little jaded about its capabilities. Instead, follow these simple steps to ensure that you get the most out of a Sybian.

Step 1 - Do you need a riser?

The Sybian is a powerfull vibrator that you straddleThe Sybian comes with a set of red risers and these two attachment raise the clitoral area of the attachment to give more clitoral stimulation and after riding your Sybian a few times you will know if you need them or not. They allow the Sybian to be fine-tuned to anyone physique.

Step 2 - Choose the right attachment

Sybian now produce a range of attachments in different materials. Their original range come in a material called C-Flex which is good but it isn't the best choices for insertable materials.

They have now supplemented that with a range of new silicone attachments and these have some very clever designs that feel amazing. I was lucky enough to be one of the first to try someone them and you can read my reviews of the new Sybian attachments here on my site.

Your first choice is material, I prefer the Silicone attachments but go with what you like. Your second choice will be whether to go for an insertable attachment or an external one. Basically, some attachments have raised phallic sections designed to penetrate you and some just have a ridge for external clitoral stimulation.

Make sure that you fit the correct rod or spring to an insertable attachment. Only use red rods if you are using the red risers. These risers are used to raise the clitoral stimulation of your attachment and they, therefore, need a slightly longer rod. Using a red rod without the red risers risks having it damage your attachment.

Step 3 - Lube up!

Even if you don't normally use lube when masturbating use some lube on your attachment as it is really going to be moving when you start to play and lube makes everything better as we all know. Use a good quality water-based lube such as Sliquid H2O.

Step 4 - Saddle up!

Now it's time to let the fun begin. Most people use the Sybian on a soft surface as it helps to reduce the noise. I usually fold up an old duvet and place mine on there. Get yourself comfortable, your clitoris should be in contact with the attachment and nothing should feel uncomfortable. If you are not comfortable then wriggle around until you are.

If you have knee problems and struggle with kneeling you can place the Sybian on a chair or platform and that way it's easy to straddle without putting pressure on your knees.

The Sybian is an incredible sex machine

Step 5 - Start off slowly

I recommend using the controls yourself, especially if you are using the Sybian for the first time. Often people who get to control the Sybian get carried away and turn everything up too high too quickly. For your first orgasm use the controls yourself as this will give you much more control as you learn how to ride it properly.

Start off by setting the rotation of the internal part of the attachment so it's how you like it. This control alters the speed that the insertable portion of the attachment moves around inside of you stimulating the area of your G-spot. Think of a finger being wriggled around making a circular motion at its tip and that is basically how it moves inside you. If using an external attachment then just leave the rotation feature switched off.

Here comes the best bit. Start the vibrations off with a very low setting. Get yourself warmed up and enjoy the deep rumbly vibrations that the Sybian delivers. As you become more aroused slowly increase the tempo, let your body decide how high to go and don't rush. The best orgasms on a Sybian come from slowly letting everything build up to a mighty crescendo.

Listen to your body and alter the speed setting accordingly, remember that you can go down as well as up with the controls. I like to edge myself, taking myself to the brink of an orgasm and then denying it by slowing down again. Each time I get more and more aroused.

Grinding against the Sybian attachment is very pleasurable, just move your hips and grind your clitoris into the raised part of the attachment to really ramp up the pleasure.

Riding the Sybian is not a raceEventually, when you are ready, push on and tip yourself over the edge into a mind-blowing orgasm. Sybian orgasms are felt throughout your lower body and they tend to roll on and on. I find that by not stopping but by lowering the power slightly I can roll into another orgasm and then another until I can take it no more and literally collapse onto the floor.

I often end up squirting on the Sybian and it's the only sex toy to have ever managed to make me to do that. So you may want to place a towel under yours to catch anything.

Step 6 - Take it further and play with a friend.

There is nothing better than having a partner behind you holding you tight as you ride a Sybian. Whispering in your ear and supporting you as you cum. When you are happy then give them the controls and let them dictate the tempo of your play.

Sharing Sybian sessions is a very special thing and why not try sex in the doggy position over a Sybian with an external attachment. You will get the direct stimulation from the Sybian through your Clitoris and your partner will have his balls resting on the Sybian and your whole pussy will be vibrating. Trust me you will both end up in a quivering heap having sex this way and it's a great way to finish a session on the Sybian.

Conclusion

The Sybian is an amazing sex machine but it's one that takes some experimentation with to get the most out of it. Don't rush, it isn't a race (unless you want to see how fast you can cum of course). Edging yourself can be lots of fun and there is a great deal of difference in the sensations from internal and external attachments so experiment with both.

If you let someone else control it then make sure that they go slow and tease you to a knee-trembling orgasm.

If you don't own a Sybian but want to try before buying then check out the manufacturers 45 day money back satisfaction guarantee. Or, if you live in the UK then why not hire one to see what all the fuss is about from Fucking Machine Fun. Tell them both that Joanne says "Hi".

Have fun and enjoy your ride....

A Guide To Nipple Play

I love nipple play, it is the gender free sex organ made for loving

Well, they're made for loving and nurturing actually. The most amazingly fantastic thing about nipples is that we all have them. They are also definitely under stimulated in lots of us. I am talking directly to you, penis owners.

Yes, penis owners, nipple play is not just for us vaginistas. You can enjoy some tweaking, clamping and sucking play as well. Trust me you may want to take notes, this may come as a shock to you.

I'm going to cover some of the great ways that we can pleasure our twin love buddies. I'm also going to suggest some further reading for anyone looking to give take their play to the next level.

Firstly though let's just talk about what nipples are and what makes them so much fun.

Chocolate boobiesThere are hundreds of nerve endings in a nipple and that makes them very sensitive to sensation play. This makes them hot spots for pleasure in all genders. Research has shown that nipples stimulation can mimic the same responses in the brain caused by direct genital stimulation.

That means they have a hotline to the pleasure centre of your brain. So it's hardly surprising then that so many people get aroused when their nipples are touched. With the right stimulation, you can experience an orgasm through nipple stimulation alone.

This diagram shows the basic biology of the breast and nipple through the medium of chocolate. It is common to all genders.

Here are a few ideas for nipple play together with products that I have reviewed. I will also include some links to relevant products for that style of play.

Finger Play

We can all enjoy some self-stimulation or stimulation by our partners using our hands and fingers. Try gently running a fingertip around your areola, then use your fingernail to see the different sensations.

Try adding some lube or saliva into the equation for some slippery nipple fun. Warm yourself up using your fingers first before even considering any equipment.

The most sensitive parts are first the nipple, followed by the areola and then the breast tissue. Stimulate and rub all three areas.

Squeeze your nipples, twist your nipples. Basically, give them a good going over. Some people enjoy having them squeezed rhythmically whilst others enjoy a little twisting action. Experiment to see what gets you aroused. Your nipples will fill with blood as you play with them causing them to get harder and erect just like a penis does.

Tongues, teeth and suckling

Having a mouth exploring your nipples can feel incredible. A wet tongue feels delicious teasing your nipple or circling your areola. Gently sucking on an erect nipple can also be mindblowing, You can even use your teeth to gently scrape and nibble on a nipple.

Go gently though as they are very sensitive. Often if you have large breasts you can self-stimulate your nipples this way. If you can't do that then you will need the help of a partner. Oral nipple stimulation is one of my favourite activities, both giving and receiving.

Always ask someone before biting or nibbling and start with your teeth closer to the breast. Use your teeth around the areola rather than the tip of the nipple to start with and go gently listening to your partner.

Vibrator play

Vibrator nipple play is a lot of funYou can use any vibrator on your nipples, try stimulating the areola and well as the nipple itself and you will enjoy some fantastic sensations.

As your nipples get harder so the sensations will change and your nipples will get more sensitive.

Temperature play

I'm talking hot and cold here, having your partner drink a cold drink before sucking your nipples. Alternatively get them to drink a hot drink or alternate for some very diverse sensations. You can use icecubes for nipple play but keep it moving and don't do it for too long otherwise you risk a cold injury. Temperature play can be a lot of fun especially if you are restrained.

You can add some fun whilst sucking on a nipple by wetting it then blowing on it to chill it. Then suck it into your mouth to warm it up again. This simple technique works wonders for some quick temperature play. Top Tip - try it down below as well the next time you go down on a wet pussy.

Nipple clamps

Now we're talking some serious fun, you know you mean business when play needs equipment. Clamping a nipple can feel exquisite or painful depending on how it's done. If you don't like it intense then place the clamp behind the nipple so that it clamps the areola. For more intense stimulation clamp the nipple directly. With any sort of clamping always release the pressure regularly so that blood can flow back into the tissue.

Nipple sticks from Kink CraftA simple peg is often the first thing people use on their nipples and these can feel good. You can then move on to purpose made nipple clamps made out of plastic, metal or even wood. One I love the nipple sticks made by Kink Craft, I have reviewed a set of these and they not only look stunning but they feel great. They are also adjustable. I have also used a nipple stick to clamp my clitoris and that was amazing.

The header of this article features a set of spring-loaded crocodile clips with bells attached. This style of clamp is popular for a reason - they work well and they sound great too. This type of clamp often has screws so that you can adjust the strength of the clamping action.

You can get nipple clamps attached to gags such as the O-ring Gag & Nipple Clamps that I recently reviewed. For some really intense play, you can try magnetic nipple orbs, be warned though that these magnets are very strong.

When you remove a clamp the blood rushes back into the nipple and this feels very intense and is my favourite part of the clamping process.

Nipple Suckers

Taking having your nipples sucked to the extreme can be a lot of fun and using a nipple sucker can feel very intense. It's also a visual treat as the nipple and areola engorge with blood. They expand to a much larger size than they would normally do. When the suction is released the swelling stays and this makes your nipples much more sensitive.

Health

Nipples come in all shapes and sizes and yours will be perfectly normal no matter what shape they are. That said though you should regularly check your breasts and nipples for changes. Seeking medical advice if you are worried about anything at all to do with them.

Conclusion

Nipple play may not be everybody's kettle of fish but if you don't try it you can't say that it isn't for you. I strongly suggest that the next time you masturbate you include some nipple play. Who knows, it may give you the best orgasm of your life.

Why not add a comment below to let me know how you prefer to have your nipples stimulated, that way you can give ideas and help to other readers.

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