Curiosity Kinked this Cat
By Posy Churchgate
My kink journey took the slow scenic route! As a teenager I was streaking ahead, trying out self pleasure before my friends, made curious by all the sexy passages I read in ‘bonkbuster’ books. I bought a vibrator and my reading progressed to porn novels - at 17 I'd read Emanuelle, Delta of Venus and The Pearl (volumes of Victorian erotica sourced from underground pamphlets printed in those sexually-repressed times).
I had adventurous boyfriends so we explored together - I loved sex during my period, also gentle anal probing and tried sex outdoors! I gave good head and enjoyed receiving oral but my breasts seemed ornamental rather than ‘participants’ in my sexy adventures. However, squished together they gave a fantastic tit wank! I had honey drizzled over my nipples then sucked off, it did nothing for me!
I continued reading erotica [adult books led to on-line novels] discovering more kinks (blindfolds and ballgags for sensory deprivation excited me, pony play with extreme body modification - not so much!). If I read something which got me horny I'd test the waters with my OH or browse online sex sites with a view to purchasing toys to make it happen. Moving around while wearing a toy internally for stimulation was my first experiment - my early sets of 'ben wah' balls were disappointing - the ones with external textures were too big and difficult to insert (I hadn't yet learned the importance of lube) and were reminiscent of balls you add to the tumble drier! Smaller silver coloured balls worked better, but weren’t successful in the arousal stakes, no matter how vigorously I scrubbed the shower or hoovered the carpet while wearing them - only result, a slightly gooey gusset!
A particular book stands out in my memory as it whet my appetite for having a bare pussy and anal play! The story is a MMF love triangle and it had me throbbing on the edge of my seat! From the day I read ‘...his gaze dropped to the curl-shrouded flesh between her thighs. “You know, Kei, if this sweet pussy were waxed, you could feel even the breeze whispering over your clit, caressing your flesh. Wouldn’t that feel good?”
He blew across her clit, the sensation of even that small caress drawing her to her toes as she fought for something to hold onto. A way to strengthen her legs. … Her cry shattered through the barnyard as his hand lifted her leg and his head lowered to the saturated flesh between her thighs.”
I was determined to have my bikini area waxed totally smooth - I booked an appointment, took a painkiller (unnecessary I now know) and voila! My OH came back from a business trip and was delighted with my new, smooth ‘play area’! His cunnilingus became more enthusiastic and he enjoyed a clear view of my newly-purchased black vibrator (a body safe silicone and USB rechargeable upgrade) watching it slide in and out of me, stretching my lips while building my arousal.
Not yet ready for anal sex, I began to experiment with anal toys - a prober and some silicone butt plugs, one is weighted so I can go about my day wearing it, aware it’s stimulating me as I move. Next progression, I wear a plug while OH uses a vibrator or dildo on me, which is explosively thrilling - I'd say it doubles the sensation. The next step will be a larger, firmer butt plug worn during PiV penetration.
By this stage I was reading stacks of BDSM stories online plus accounts from other sex bloggers, so I knew my nipples were an untapped source of pleasure. I was very aroused by accounts of pinching, twisting and trapping them in the bite of pegs or clamps. I tried being rougher with my OH's aureola - biting and sucking ever harder and was rewarded with groans of pleasure and hip thrusts (unfortunately he wasn't rough in return and I found it hard to ask). Online I ordered nipple rings (which looked like a piercing ring but which pinched the nipple ... not hard enough I'm afraid! How about (2 sizes of) suction bulb used to engorge the nipple with blood, then different sized bands which roll onto the nipple and hold it like that? Sounds yummy, however I couldn't really feel them! Best bit of that kit is the larger sucking bulb, which also feels delicious applied to my clit! I'm still searching for the right style of nipple clamp to torment my breasts but not pinch them off!
One time, having spent an entire evening reading erotica, I felt really languorous and aroused. Putting my hand under my nightshirt to pinch my nipple hard I came almost straight away! I had discovered the nipplegasm! Didn't actually know it was a 'thing' until I was asked to write an article on it - so I tweeted for people to DM or e-mail me to discuss nipplegasms they'd experienced and how to get one. I haven't compiled the results yet, but it seems that many people of any sex have them, they feel intense, but different from a clitoral/penile orgasm. Increased blood flow to the nipples seems key (think pinching, biting, swatting, ice or clamps) and take the time, lots of nipple stimulation is required to achieve an orgasm this way.
This is a fantastic guest post, and it highlights the fact that we are all different and what works for one person may not necessarily work for everyone. Nipple play is one of those areas where there is a vast range of different reactions to it, but a nipplegasm is a beautiful thing if you ever achieve one. If you think that you have a good idea for a guest post, then check out my guest post information page to see how your work can appear here too.