Share your tips for a Hands-Free Orgasm

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Share your tips for a Hands-Free Orgasm

Post by Joanne » Fri Sep 27, 2019 10:55 am

Thank you @Gyrator for the idea for this forum thread.

Share your tips for achieving a hands-free orgasm

Please chip in on this thread with your tips for helping newbies to e-stim achieving their first and subsequent hands-free orgasms. I am going to start by adding some of my own tips:
  • Relax and enjoy the session, don't stress about achieving one, just enjoy the journey and they will come (or should that be you will cum).
  • Remove distractions while stimming, try a blindfold, it helps to focus your senses on the sensations.
  • Keep a stimming diary. We often need to zone in one what setting or electrode positions work the best for us as we are all different so take notes. It will help you find your best set-up while helping you not try things you have already tried down the line. I have an example of the one I use here - E-Stim Session Diary
  • Keep things simple. Go for a simple electrode set-up before experimenting with more advanced electrode configurations like tri-phase.
  • Use electrogel on all electrodes with the exception of self-adhesive monopole pads, it helps to smooth out the electrical pulses making things much more pleasant.
  • Learn about your nerve system and physiology, it will help with deciding where you place your electrodes. You want the current to go through nerve clusters. Check out my Electrosex Penis Play Guide For Hands-Free Orgasms for some information about the Dorsal and Perineal nerves.
  • If things didn't work only change one thing at a time such as electrode positions or setting, if you change more than one thing at a time you won't know what it was that didn't work for you. It makes zoning in on the sweet spot much easier.
  • Finally going back to my first point, relax, a stimming session even if it doesn't end in a hands-free orgasm is still a heck of a lot of fun and you can always bring yourself off afterwards. It may take time to find what works best for you but the rewards of HFO are definitely worth the time taken learning how to achieve one.
So, do you have any pointers or tips that you would be willing to share with others on here? I hope you do so feel free to share them below.

Happy Stimming,

Joanne


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Re: Share your tips for a Hands-Free Orgasm

Post by StimDog » Fri Sep 27, 2019 11:54 am

Great idea for a thread. I can add:
  • Use e-stim just the way you masturbate normally so if you like watching a certain genre of pron do that.
  • Do it in the same setting (lights, location etc) as you usually do when wanking.
  • Don't focus on the orgasm, instead focus on the incredible sensations you are enjoying and watch the pre-cum flow.
  • I like to use condoms over penis electrodes to prevent any mess as I come and they help to hold self-adhesive pad electrodes in place. :evil:

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Re: Share your tips for a Hands-Free Orgasm

Post by lawman » Fri Sep 27, 2019 2:01 pm

I agree with both Joanne and StimDog but it is different for everyone. Joanne's guide has some very valuable info about the nerves in the penis which every dude should know anyway. I am admit about keeping a diary and cannot stress how valuable that can be so please see the forum on that as I have a few comments there as well. I will also state this again, RELAX, RELAX, RELAX! You may not achieve HFO right away but if it is pleasurable then keep after it but don't stress about it, it will happen. If you try it a few times and find it not to be pleasurable, well, it isn't for everyone. I do not use porn or other external stimulus when in a stim session, I like to focus on the "journey," the sensations like StimDog stated and eventually you will arrive at your destination although getting lost can be amazing. I always plan out my session a bit, which power box, which electrodes, placement, and which stim(s) to use. I also like to be blindfolded and sometimes use a bit of bondage. Blocking out a few senses can really let you focus on the sensation flowing around your nether regions. I also use some sort of anal electrode in nearly every session and again, that is not for everyone. I am not gay but I do love anal play and stimulation. Most of all HAVE FUN!!!!

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Re: Share your tips for a Hands-Free Orgasm

Post by Gyrator » Fri Sep 27, 2019 4:48 pm

There seems so much to cover but here is my first stab at it.
Firstly - advice probably most aimed at guys - don't assume that it will work best with all the controls turned up to 11 and your fillings going into corona unless pain is your thing.
I would agree with comments about experimenting a lot with electrodes and being methodical and keeping notes. Once I found that a very small frenulum electrode really got to me I had my first HFO with a simple continuous stream of fairly high frequency, short, pulses that caused only a modest tingle and were a very long way from the most I could stand. While I have cum from modulated pulse patterns I keep coming back to the simple continuous stream. Interestingly, even slight differences in electrode position can make the difference between a delightful sensation and a borderline unpleasant one. Similarly with pulse duration and frequency. I have three different EMS units and when these are set to notionally the same pulse frequency and width they produce slightly different sensations.
Start the stimulation slowly and advance the level only gradually as you become acclimatised to it. Initially allow lots of time and make sure there are no time pressures on you so you can let the stim run as long as you want/need.
As has already been said, don't go trying to force the orgasm. Just relax and enjoy the feelings. The first time or two you may well find the sensations great but not orgasm-inducing.
When you have been stimulated for a while you may well start to feel you really need to orgasm. Chances are that you will feel your heart thumping harder. At this stage start to cycle how you use your muscles in response to the stimulation. With continuous pulses the urge is to tighten your pelvic floor and possibly leg muscles. Start by actively resisting this, pushing down as if trying to pee and relax and breath. Concentrate on the sensation and eventually the urge to tighten your pelvic floor will become almost irresistible. At this point smoothly increase the tension in your PF and legs and hold it while steadily exhaling. When you feel your PF start to tire, relax and start pushing down again. Hopefully you will feel yourself getting closer to orgasm with each relax and tense cycle and you will probably find you leak pre-cum at each cycle.

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Re: Share your tips for a Hands-Free Orgasm

Post by mandy21 » Tue Oct 01, 2019 7:59 pm

Can I add something for the girls?

The one thing I would like to add is that whilst the size of a dildo or vibrator makes a difference as I know I won't enjoy a small thin one.

But when it comes to electrodes, bigger doesn't necessarily mean better.

Of course, it goes without saying that you wouldn't want one that is too big. But for me it is all in the shape, a thin electrode can have an amazing effect, but the different shapes provide different stimulation. I prefer end to end style electrodes over the side to side ones. I get a better ghost fucking sensation with end to end ones.

So I agree with all the above (where applicable for girls) but also try different shapes of electrodes as well.

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Re: Share your tips for a Hands-Free Orgasm

Post by Gyrator » Wed Oct 02, 2019 2:26 pm

@mandy21
I totally agree about the area of the electrode being critical. Having come to all this from the angle of getting better, more effective pelvic floor exercise I originally worked entirely with large area electrodes that, combined with enough current, gave incredible muscle work-outs and significant ghost-fuck as a consequence. However, recently I have been fooling with small area electrodes and especially targeting the frenulum. What I discovered was that these very focussed electrodes give amazing sensations at very low current and, surprisingly, also considerable muscle activity. However, I think the mechanism is different with the muscle activity not being driven directly by the applied current but indirectly with the sensation triggering a response and causing the brain to drive the muscle reaction. I say this because I find a small stimulation passed between two electrodes both touching the head of the penis cause a strong tensioning of the whole pelvic area.
I would be very interested to know if an electrode designed to provide a very focussed stimulation of the g-spot would be effective for women - say with a large part of the back surface of the dildo being the 'ground' electrode while a small ridge on the top surface provides the 'active' electrode injecting the stimulation current into the g-spot. I was rather hoping the ridge on the Noir Ovid would be like this but it seems to have the usual side-to-side electrodes.

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Re: Share your tips for a Hands-Free Orgasm

Post by Gyrator » Sat Nov 02, 2019 5:53 pm

I think this is a skill, like being able to wiggle your ears, that suddenly becomes lots easier when you have developed the knack.
I'm finding that I'm reaching the “sweet spot” at a somewhat lower level of stimulation than I needed to orgasm the first few times. I have also discovered that, if I'm failing to get there after say 30 or 45 minutes, it helps to turn the stim off completely for a few minutes and then ramp up the stimulation to the level I know has worked for me before over a fairly short time (say only 15 seconds). Quite often this triggers the orgasm after less than a minute.

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