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Quality Versus Quantity

So what's best for your blog?

You probably won't be surprised by the answer to that question. The temptation is to try to fill your blog with as many articles as possible in order to make it look full and healthy but that can be a double edged sword.

Visitors will mostly find your site through the big search engines and they all use metrics to work out which are the best pages to display when someone places a search through them. They are all in the business of providing what they think is exactly what the person doing the search is looking for and one of the most important metric for that is 'bounce rate'.

Other metrics that they monitor is how long visitors stay on your site. These two metrics are important indicators to a search engine as to how good the page is that they served in relation to the search terms used. Lets face it we have all done it, you do a search land on a webpage and you hit the back button. Search engines notice that and it's one of the main reasons why you need to be writing engaging articles that hold a readers attention and keeps them from hitting that back button.

That is of course easier said than done, so what should you be doing to try to write quality articles as if they aren't of a good quality then readers are just going to ounce away. The following pointers will also help your pages get listed higher on search engines but its the quality of the page that really counts.

Using Affiliate Links On Your Blog

Do you want to make some money from your blog?

So you have a blog and you've been working hard in order to fill it with interesting and relevant content, your traffic is starting to build and you are looking at ways of monetising your blog in order to offset your costs or to put some money in your back pocket.

Firstly, making a blog pay for itself is a long and slow slog and it certainly isn't a get rich quick scheme. That said though with some hard work and dedication you'll start to see a return on your time and effort. The easiest way of monetising your blog is simply to use affiliate partnerships with retailers and this article is specifically written to give you the low down and also to keep you clear of the law as you do have some obligations if you are using affiliate links.

Hosted Or Self Hosting?

You'll need to decide where to host your blog

One of the biggest decisions that you will have to make is how and where you host your blog and you basically have two main choices. Setting up your blog is actually quite easy but it does require a bit of work on your part. Each hosting option has its own pros and cons which I will discuss below. You will also need to make a decision as to if you want to throw some money at your blog to help establish it or if you want to go the free route to try it out before you commit.

Personal Safety And Privacy

Your safety and privacy are primary concerns

This subject is so important that it deserves its own article and I hope that this opens your eyes and also answers any questions or doubts that you have about running a sex blog. As with most things sex related discretion is key. Especially in this day and age where people are all too keen and quick to judge others. It's therefore of tantamount importance that you understand the concerns and risks involved whilst also knowing how to keep yourself safe whilst preserving your privacy.

Got A Great Idea For A Sex Blog?

Are you wondering if you should take that next step?

Well why not go for it, sex blogging is so much fun and also very liberating. It can help you express yourself and to grow in confidence. It can also help other people on their journey through life to improve their own sex lives with the benefit of your wisdom and advice. Blogging about sex is a great way to express yourself and it can be done anonymously as lets face it most of us wouldn't have it any other way. I have written a seperate article on privacy and personal safety as it's such an important subject and that's well worth checking out.

The Sybian Riders Guide

Getting the most bang for your buck with a Sybian

The Sybian is a legend in its own right, for 30 years it has been providing hard orgasms to women all around the world.

It's without a doubt the most powerful vibrator that I have ever had the privilege of having between my legs but getting the most out of it requires some thought and lots of practice.

It's all too easy just to straddle it and then really ramp up the power too quickly but that will leave you sore and probably a little jaded about its capabilities. Instead, follow these simple steps to ensure that you get the most out of a Sybian.

Step 1 - Do you need a riser?

The Sybian is a powerfull vibrator that you straddleThe Sybian comes with a set of red risers and these two attachment raise the clitoral area of the attachment to give more clitoral stimulation and after riding your Sybian a few times you will know if you need them or not. They allow the Sybian to be fine-tuned to anyone physique.

Step 2 - Choose the right attachment

Sybian now produce a range of attachments in different materials. Their original range come in a material called C-Flex which is good but it isn't the best choices for insertable materials.

They have now supplemented that with a range of new silicone attachments and these have some very clever designs that feel amazing. I was lucky enough to be one of the first to try someone them and you can read my reviews of the new Sybian attachments here on my site.

Your first choice is material, I prefer the Silicone attachments but go with what you like. Your second choice will be whether to go for an insertable attachment or an external one. Basically, some attachments have raised phallic sections designed to penetrate you and some just have a ridge for external clitoral stimulation.

Make sure that you fit the correct rod or spring to an insertable attachment. Only use red rods if you are using the red risers. These risers are used to raise the clitoral stimulation of your attachment and they, therefore, need a slightly longer rod. Using a red rod without the red risers risks having it damage your attachment.

Step 3 - Lube up!

Even if you don't normally use lube when masturbating use some lube on your attachment as it is really going to be moving when you start to play and lube makes everything better as we all know. Use a good quality water-based lube such as Sliquid H2O.

Step 4 - Saddle up!

Now it's time to let the fun begin. Most people use the Sybian on a soft surface as it helps to reduce the noise. I usually fold up an old duvet and place mine on there. Get yourself comfortable, your clitoris should be in contact with the attachment and nothing should feel uncomfortable. If you are not comfortable then wriggle around until you are.

If you have knee problems and struggle with kneeling you can place the Sybian on a chair or platform and that way it's easy to straddle without putting pressure on your knees.

The Sybian is an incredible sex machine

Step 5 - Start off slowly

I recommend using the controls yourself, especially if you are using the Sybian for the first time. Often people who get to control the Sybian get carried away and turn everything up too high too quickly. For your first orgasm use the controls yourself as this will give you much more control as you learn how to ride it properly.

Start off by setting the rotation of the internal part of the attachment so it's how you like it. This control alters the speed that the insertable portion of the attachment moves around inside of you stimulating the area of your G-spot. Think of a finger being wriggled around making a circular motion at its tip and that is basically how it moves inside you. If using an external attachment then just leave the rotation feature switched off.

Here comes the best bit. Start the vibrations off with a very low setting. Get yourself warmed up and enjoy the deep rumbly vibrations that the Sybian delivers. As you become more aroused slowly increase the tempo, let your body decide how high to go and don't rush. The best orgasms on a Sybian come from slowly letting everything build up to a mighty crescendo.

Listen to your body and alter the speed setting accordingly, remember that you can go down as well as up with the controls. I like to edge myself, taking myself to the brink of an orgasm and then denying it by slowing down again. Each time I get more and more aroused.

Grinding against the Sybian attachment is very pleasurable, just move your hips and grind your clitoris into the raised part of the attachment to really ramp up the pleasure.

Riding the Sybian is not a raceEventually, when you are ready, push on and tip yourself over the edge into a mind-blowing orgasm. Sybian orgasms are felt throughout your lower body and they tend to roll on and on. I find that by not stopping but by lowering the power slightly I can roll into another orgasm and then another until I can take it no more and literally collapse onto the floor.

I often end up squirting on the Sybian and it's the only sex toy to have ever managed to make me to do that. So you may want to place a towel under yours to catch anything.

Step 6 - Take it further and play with a friend.

There is nothing better than having a partner behind you holding you tight as you ride a Sybian. Whispering in your ear and supporting you as you cum. When you are happy then give them the controls and let them dictate the tempo of your play.

Sharing Sybian sessions is a very special thing and why not try sex in the doggy position over a Sybian with an external attachment. You will get the direct stimulation from the Sybian through your Clitoris and your partner will have his balls resting on the Sybian and your whole pussy will be vibrating. Trust me you will both end up in a quivering heap having sex this way and it's a great way to finish a session on the Sybian.

Conclusion

The Sybian is an amazing sex machine but it's one that takes some experimentation with to get the most out of it. Don't rush, it isn't a race (unless you want to see how fast you can cum of course). Edging yourself can be lots of fun and there is a great deal of difference in the sensations from internal and external attachments so experiment with both.

If you let someone else control it then make sure that they go slow and tease you to a knee-trembling orgasm.

If you don't own a Sybian but want to try before buying then check out the manufacturers 45 day money back satisfaction guarantee. Or, if you live in the UK then why not hire one to see what all the fuss is about from Fucking Machine Fun. Tell them both that Joanne says "Hi".

Have fun and enjoy your ride....

A Guide To Nipple Play

I love nipple play, it is the gender free sex organ made for loving

Well, they're made for loving and nurturing actually. The most amazingly fantastic thing about nipples is that we all have them. They are also definitely under stimulated in lots of us. I am talking directly to you, penis owners.

Yes, penis owners, nipple play is not just for us vaginistas. You can enjoy some tweaking, clamping and sucking play as well. Trust me you may want to take notes, this may come as a shock to you.

I'm going to cover some of the great ways that we can pleasure our twin love buddies. I'm also going to suggest some further reading for anyone looking to give take their play to the next level.

Firstly though let's just talk about what nipples are and what makes them so much fun.

Chocolate boobiesThere are hundreds of nerve endings in a nipple and that makes them very sensitive to sensation play. This makes them hot spots for pleasure in all genders. Research has shown that nipples stimulation can mimic the same responses in the brain caused by direct genital stimulation.

That means they have a hotline to the pleasure centre of your brain. So it's hardly surprising then that so many people get aroused when their nipples are touched. With the right stimulation, you can experience an orgasm through nipple stimulation alone.

This diagram shows the basic biology of the breast and nipple through the medium of chocolate. It is common to all genders.

Here are a few ideas for nipple play together with products that I have reviewed. I will also include some links to relevant products for that style of play.

Finger Play

We can all enjoy some self-stimulation or stimulation by our partners using our hands and fingers. Try gently running a fingertip around your areola, then use your fingernail to see the different sensations.

Try adding some lube or saliva into the equation for some slippery nipple fun. Warm yourself up using your fingers first before even considering any equipment.

The most sensitive parts are first the nipple, followed by the areola and then the breast tissue. Stimulate and rub all three areas.

Squeeze your nipples, twist your nipples. Basically, give them a good going over. Some people enjoy having them squeezed rhythmically whilst others enjoy a little twisting action. Experiment to see what gets you aroused. Your nipples will fill with blood as you play with them causing them to get harder and erect just like a penis does.

Tongues, teeth and suckling

Having a mouth exploring your nipples can feel incredible. A wet tongue feels delicious teasing your nipple or circling your areola. Gently sucking on an erect nipple can also be mindblowing, You can even use your teeth to gently scrape and nibble on a nipple.

Go gently though as they are very sensitive. Often if you have large breasts you can self-stimulate your nipples this way. If you can't do that then you will need the help of a partner. Oral nipple stimulation is one of my favourite activities, both giving and receiving.

Always ask someone before biting or nibbling and start with your teeth closer to the breast. Use your teeth around the areola rather than the tip of the nipple to start with and go gently listening to your partner.

Vibrator play

Vibrator nipple play is a lot of funYou can use any vibrator on your nipples, try stimulating the areola and well as the nipple itself and you will enjoy some fantastic sensations.

As your nipples get harder so the sensations will change and your nipples will get more sensitive.

Temperature play

I'm talking hot and cold here, having your partner drink a cold drink before sucking your nipples. Alternatively get them to drink a hot drink or alternate for some very diverse sensations. You can use icecubes for nipple play but keep it moving and don't do it for too long otherwise you risk a cold injury. Temperature play can be a lot of fun especially if you are restrained.

You can add some fun whilst sucking on a nipple by wetting it then blowing on it to chill it. Then suck it into your mouth to warm it up again. This simple technique works wonders for some quick temperature play. Top Tip - try it down below as well the next time you go down on a wet pussy.

Nipple clamps

Now we're talking some serious fun, you know you mean business when play needs equipment. Clamping a nipple can feel exquisite or painful depending on how it's done. If you don't like it intense then place the clamp behind the nipple so that it clamps the areola. For more intense stimulation clamp the nipple directly. With any sort of clamping always release the pressure regularly so that blood can flow back into the tissue.

Nipple sticks from Kink CraftA simple peg is often the first thing people use on their nipples and these can feel good. You can then move on to purpose made nipple clamps made out of plastic, metal or even wood. One I love the nipple sticks made by Kink Craft, I have reviewed a set of these and they not only look stunning but they feel great. They are also adjustable. I have also used a nipple stick to clamp my clitoris and that was amazing.

The header of this article features a set of spring-loaded crocodile clips with bells attached. This style of clamp is popular for a reason - they work well and they sound great too. This type of clamp often has screws so that you can adjust the strength of the clamping action.

You can get nipple clamps attached to gags such as the O-ring Gag & Nipple Clamps that I recently reviewed. For some really intense play, you can try magnetic nipple orbs, be warned though that these magnets are very strong.

When you remove a clamp the blood rushes back into the nipple and this feels very intense and is my favourite part of the clamping process.

Nipple Suckers

Taking having your nipples sucked to the extreme can be a lot of fun and using a nipple sucker can feel very intense. It's also a visual treat as the nipple and areola engorge with blood. They expand to a much larger size than they would normally do. When the suction is released the swelling stays and this makes your nipples much more sensitive.

Health

Nipples come in all shapes and sizes and yours will be perfectly normal no matter what shape they are. That said though you should regularly check your breasts and nipples for changes. Seeking medical advice if you are worried about anything at all to do with them.

Conclusion

Nipple play may not be everybody's kettle of fish but if you don't try it you can't say that it isn't for you. I strongly suggest that the next time you masturbate you include some nipple play. Who knows, it may give you the best orgasm of your life.

Why not add a comment below to let me know how you prefer to have your nipples stimulated, that way you can give ideas and help to other readers.

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10 Tips For Great Sex

Sex should be pleasurable but can it be even more pleasurable?

As you are reading this I can assume that you want to improve your sex life and why not? Everyone has the ability to add a bit of spice into their love-life. Well these ten tips are for all genders and hopefully they will give you some ideas and if it helps then great. If you have any other suggestions then why not add a comment at the bottom of this article.

So sit back, get comfy and prepare to take all of this on board.

1. Use toys or lubricant to enhance the experience

Never underestimate the power of a good lube. I always use lube when masturbating and it makes things so much more enjoyable. Penis owners can also enjoy a good lube too.

It also has some health benefits as well as it can prevent damage to your delicate mucous membranes.

It does make a difference and it feels so good when you add just a little bit of lube it can change how everything feels. Always go for a good quality water based lube and be careful of ones with harmful additives.

This excellent Big Lube Guide is written by Dangerous Lily and shows you what to avoid.

Bring some sex toys into the bedroom, you don't have to get too kinky. Why not try experimenting with a vibrator or dildo. Lots of couples enjoy bringing sextoys into their sex lives and it's a great way to pleasure each other. Talk through your likes and boundaries so that you both know what each other likes.

Or maybe try using a blindfold for some tie tease fun. Check out my beginners guide to Bondage for some other tips.

2. Take your time and spend more time on foreplay

It isn't a race, taking your time can both help to build up the excitement and also make your orgasms stronger. Foreplay is often undervalued or even skipped but it's a powerful tool that anyone can use.

Take your time to pleasure your partner or even just tease yourself. Caress, kiss and rub your partners erogenous zones to watch their excitement build.

Taking time on foreplay can make your orgasms much more satisfying. Whilst an orgasm isn't the be all and end all getting there can be so much fun.

3. Try new touches and sensations

This one is a must, try masturbating with a glove on or give your partner a massage with oils. Experiment with sensation play, maybe chill a dildo or vibe in the fridge before using it.

Have some fun with each others erogenous zones with an ice cube, you will be surprised how cold things can be so hot.

Try breathing on your partners skin, the back of the neck is a great spot as is the nipples and genitals. Warm breath can feel incredibly sensual and it can ramp up the excitement.

4. You can have amazing sex with yourself

Masturbation isn't dirty or un-natural, it's actually a a lot of fun and everyone does it. Masturbating even has health benefits.

Masturbation is a great opportunity to learn about your body. You can experiment and learn how areas of your body respond to different stimulus.

You can also use masturbation as a way to increase your stamina.

So get polishing the pearl you clitoris owners or doing the five knuckle shuffle for penis owners.

5. Great sex is based on consent

You can't have great sex without consent! It stands to reason as sex without consent is abuse or rape.

Talk with your partner if you want to try something new. Don't be shy about it, you never know they may have been thinking about it too.

Don't overstep your marks, if you agree to try something new then take it slowly and stick to the agreed plan.

6. Live out a fantasy or two

Try some tie tease fun or live out a fantasyThis one can be a lot of fun even if you are on your own. If there's something that you have always fancied trying then go for it. There is nothing stopping you from living out your fantasies and if you involve your partner then you can both enjoy them together.

For couples, why not agree to take it in turns to live out each others fantasies.

This can be a great way to have amazing sex as it's things that you have already fantasised about.

If you've read the books or seen the 50 Shades of Grey films then why not try sometie tease fun and games or light bondage.

7. Avoid distractions

Put your phone on standby. There is nothing worse than a phone ringing as you are grabbing the sheets and about to orgasm. It can be a real mood killer.

Take things a step further try having sex in a new location away from the stresses of everyday life. Book into a hotel room or send the kids to stay with their grandparents to give you some freedom.

8. Try watching some porn together

Try watching some porn togetherNow you can get porn on the internet more easily than you can order clothes so why not try watching some together.

Now I am not talking the kinky hardcore stuff (unless you are both into it). Choose something run of the mill the first time that you watch porn together.

Take turns selecting what you watch. This can be very enlightening and you can learn a lot about your partners tastes.

Why not try copying what you see and trying to keep up with the position changes and activities.

9. Talk dirty to each other

Something as simple as being called a "slut" can get me excited. Try talking dirty to each other. It may feel very clumsy the first time you do it but practice makes perfect.

Dirty talk can help to build up the suspense and excitement. Whisper in your partners ear during foreplay what you are going to do to him/her and enjoy the effect.

It is worth discussing words that you or your partner don't like. I hate the word "cunt" for example during normal conversations. But if my partner whispers in my ear something like "I'm going to shove my cock up your cunt" I will quite literally melt.

Words have power and they can be very sexual.

10. Don't be a selfish lover

Great sex when not is a mutual activity unless you are masturbating. Think of your partner and try to give them the most pleasure that you can. It will be reciprocated and you get what you give in the bedroom.

Don't be that person that wants to get him/herself off and once they have cum then that's it. Be a good lover and aim to get your partner off before you do. Better still try to have your orgasms coincide.

There is nothing hotter than a good old mutual orgasm, it bonds you and is amazing.

In summary, these are some tips that you can try to improve your sex life. Take your time and don't just fixate on the orgasm, treat it as just a destination. It's the journey there that is the most fun so enjoy it and try to arrive there with your partner at the same time.

How To Give A Woman Oral Sex – Advice For Guys From A Woman

Giving great cunnilingus is not brain surgery

This article might just be what you are looking for if you and your partner enjoy oral sex but you're not sure if you are giving your partner the most pleasure possible. Maybe you have never tried a bit of cunnilingus and want some top tips in order to make a good impression when you do.

In this article I hope to give you some ideas and suggestions in order to improve your oral sex technique.

Just to be clear this article is all about licking pussy or cunnilingus as it is officially known. This is an amazing sex act and it can be an ideal foreplay technique before going on to the main event. It can even be a main event on its own and there is something amazing when you experience a skilful tongue working its magic on your lady parts - trust me on that one.

Your tongue is capable of delivering mind blowing orgasms if used in the right way and I hope that both you and your partner enjoy and benefit from these words of wisdom.

This article will no doubt be read by a lot of guys but trust me on this one it can also be useful to any women who wants to brush up on her pussy eating skills as well.

One added benefit of performing good oral sex is that you will really excite and arouse your partner so if it comes to penetrative sex you won't have the pressure of having to last so long as your partner will already be well on the way to a cracking orgasm.

Cock Ring Measuring Guide

Right guys, listen up. In this instance size really does matter.

Cock rings are used to help get an erection and to maintain it for longer, they can even aid in confidence boosting and can also a visual treat. A cock ring can make your cock harder by restricting the flow of blood out of your penis and this can make it harder, they can even help you to keep your cock hard for longer than usual.

It's the fact that they are designed to restrict blood flow that makes correct sizing of paramount importance. If it is too small then it will cut off blood flow which isn't good for your penis and if you get one that's too big then it won't do its job properly as it won't restrict blood flow out of the penis.

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