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How To Give A Woman Oral Sex – Advice For Guys From A Woman
Giving great cunnilingus is not brain surgery
This article might just be what you are looking for if you and your partner enjoy oral sex but you're not sure if you are giving your partner the most pleasure possible. Maybe you have never tried a bit of cunnilingus and want some top tips in order to make a good impression when you do.
In this article I hope to give you some ideas and suggestions in order to improve your oral sex technique.
Just to be clear this article is all about licking pussy or cunnilingus as it is officially known. This is an amazing sex act and it can be an ideal foreplay technique before going on to the main event. It can even be a main event on its own and there is something amazing when you experience a skilful tongue working its magic on your lady parts - trust me on that one.
Your tongue is capable of delivering mind blowing orgasms if used in the right way and I hope that both you and your partner enjoy and benefit from these words of wisdom.
This article will no doubt be read by a lot of guys but trust me on this one it can also be useful to any women who wants to brush up on her pussy eating skills as well.
One added benefit of performing good oral sex is that you will really excite and arouse your partner so if it comes to penetrative sex you won't have the pressure of having to last so long as your partner will already be well on the way to a cracking orgasm.
Know Your Way Around A Pussy
It's always a good idea to be familiar with where you are going and the areas of a womans body that your tongue will be exploring.
Learn the names and function of each part of the Vulva, yes it's called a Vulva and not a vagina.
The vagina is part of the vulva, it's the fleshy tunnel where a cock is inserted and it isn't visible from the outside unless you spread the labia (pussy lips) open.
Your tongue can explore all areas of this diagram with the exception of the anus, you shouldn't really be tonguing that due to harmful bacteria but I know that some people do.
We Are All Different
It's worth mentioning that we're all different and one technique that will work on one woman may not necessarily work on another so it's important that you look for signs of feedback when performing oral sex on a woman. If you're not met with moans of arousal then try a different technique. Good oral sex should be incredible and if you're doing it right then you'll know it.
It really is a case of trial and error with your partner, try different techniques and note which ones she responds to and then re-enforce those. If you change partner then you will most probably have to completely change your technique as well.
Talk to your partner, ask her what she enjoys and listen to her answers. She knows best where having her pussy licked is concerned and she'll happily let you know what she likes when you're doing it.
In essence change your technique often, having the same thing done to your pussy can be boring and so it's good to change things as you play.
Take Your Time
Never rush oral sex, don't be tempted to go down on your partner for a short period of time in order to hopefully get the same done to you, that's a really selfish attitude. You should be doing it for her pleasure and not your own.
Women take longer to reach an orgasm than men often do so don't expect her to be cumming on your tongue quickly. Take your time and build her excitement up to a mind blowing orgasm.
Good oral sex is a way to arouse your partner and bring her excitement level up to your own which makes mutual orgasms easier to time and achieve.
Don't rush in attacking her clitoris with your tongue like a banshee, take your time, tease her slowly and build up the excitement.
Start by kissing her neck, make eye contact and start moving your kisses lower. take your time with her nipples, lick, suck and nibble them gently before moving lower. All the time listed to her breathing, you will hear her arousal build as your tongue and kisses moves lower and lower towards your goal.
You want to turn her on even before your tongue gets to her pussy, by the time you get there she will be ready and will desire it. A bit of teasing at this stage can go a long way to making it a great oral session.
Build Up Gently
Most women are very sensitive at the start of an oral session so again take your time, explore her labia and mons pubis with your tongue. Run the flat part of your tongue over her labia before starting to move inwards. Spread her labia and again use the flat of your tongue slowly over her lips. Don't start with the tip of your tongue on her clitoris, build up to that.
Use your breath on her lips, this can feel incredible so whilst down there tease her that way. A slow build up creates a much better orgasm in women so the slower and longer you pleasure her then the better her orgasm will be.
Don't just lick her like a puppy licking a dog chew. Vary your tongue movement and pressure. Switch between up and down motion to side to side and even try circular movements, this can be very effective around the clitoris. Try the alphabet game, try drawing all the letters of the alphabet all over her pussy. Get in there and savour her taste and smell, good oral sex should really turn you both on.
Slow and sensuous tongue movement on the clitoris can often feel much better than fast flicking but try a combination of both. Draw her clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it, be careful of your teeth though. This can be mind blowing but wait until she is fully aroused before trying this as it can be very, very powerful on an unaroused clitoris.
Combinations of different pressures, locations, speeds and patterns work best, vary it up a bit and have her guessing what you'll be doing next rather than getting bored by anything repetitive.
Don't get fixated on her clitoris women like the whole area to be pleasured and so your tongue should roam around a lot whilst you lick, try penetrating her vagina, see how far you can get your tongue into her vaginal canal.
Don't Forget About Your Hands
One of the great things about oral sex is that it leaves your hands free to pleasure your partner. Play with her breasts and rub her thighs and other areas of her body that you can reach.
You can use your fingers to really open her up for your tongue. Try pulling back her clitoral hood once she is aroused to tease her clitoris even more. You can also penetrate her with your fingers, try rubbing her G-spot as you lick, the results can be breathtaking if you hit the right spot.
Save fingering her for when she is very aroused and naturally wet and ready though, diving in too quickly can have the wrong effect. Let her get really aroused and then step up your game by using your fingers in her vagina to increase her enjoyment.
Try Different Positions
Get creative, try the 69 position for some mutual enjoyment. Let her go on top so that she is comfortable and in control she can then relax and let your tongue do its thing whilst she pleasure you orally.
Don't use the same position every time to have oral sex, be creative, it can be a huge turn on if she doesn't know what's coming next.Get some good advice about licking pussy, be a great cunnilinguist. Click to Tweet
Remember that good oral sex will be exciting for both of you. Take your time and listen to your partner, if she isn't the talkative type or is shy when it comes to telling you what she enjoys then listen to her breathing and watch her body for signs that you are hitting the right spot. Keep it fresh and varied, don't be afraid of changing your style and tempo, trust me she will enjoy having you mix things up a bit. Make good oral sex your goal and do it to please your partner and not to garner favour or anything in return, it's called being a selfless lover and women love that.
Lastly, enjoy giving her oral sex, you are after all giving her great pleasure and that's something to be savoured. Don't aim to be good at oral sex, aim to be amazing, you can do it.
- Brief Synopsis:
- Do you want to lick pussy like a pro? This guide is useful for anyone new to cunnilingus or for anyone who wants to up their game in order to really drive their partner wild with their tongue.
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