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Monday, 14 September 2015 06:40

Buying your first vibrator

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Advice on buying your first vibrator

It doesn't matter if you have just turned eighteen or forty, buying your first vibrator is both a confusing and a scary prospect. I bought my first ever sex toy through an advert in a mens magazine when I turned 18. Back in those days there was no way I was going to go into a seedy sex shop, so I ordered it by post and was terrified that my parents would open my mail when it arrived. To overcome this worry I met the postie every day at the bottom of the drive. After a very tense period of waiting it arrived and I was keen to try it out, however it wouldn't even switch on, I was gutted and had no way of getting my money back.

These days you have more choice than ever in the way that you can obtain a vibrator or any other sex toy for that matter. Modern sex shops are clean and very friendly places and you can always order one from the myriad of websites online. The choices available are literally mind blowing and it pays to do a little research before you part with your cash.

Hopefully this article will give you some pointers and advice. I hope it makes your journey of sexual awakening both a smooth and enjoyable process.

Why get a vibrator?

A recent study found that over 70% of women only masturbate by using clitoral stimulation and don't actually penetrate themselves when playing. Vibrators can produce amazing sensations when used on or around the clitoris and they can heighten arousal when used on your own or with your partner. So why wouldn't you want one? If you want to find a way to heighten your fun and provide new ways of pleasuring yourself then don't mess around get one, trust me you won't regret it.

Considerations when looking for a good vibrator

There are lots of considerations when looking for a decent vibrator and it all starts off with understanding what materials are body safe, yes there are some materials used that aren't good for you. How companies can get away with making sex toys out of these materials is a mystery to me but they can, but as long as you understand what to look for you won't have any problems. I have an article that focusses on the different types of material used in sex toys and you can read it HERE. In essence look for vibrators made out of silicone, ABS, glass, metal and stone. If you're shopping in a shop for your vibrator sniff the vibrator that you are interested in, if it smells of chemicals or has a strong aroma steer clear of it.

Online sex toy shopping

There are literally thousands of sites selling thousands of different types of vibrator, just like when shopping on the high street use shops that have good reputations and have good reviews and policies. Do a little research into the shop you are looking to use when you buy your sex toy. Check out their policies on things like shipping and returns. You still have statutory rights when shopping online. Shops are obliged to provide either an exchange or refund if the product that they provide is not fit for purpose, so if it breaks you have your normal rights. Most companies will not give you a refund if you have used the toy or broken any hygiene seals if you change your mind about the purchase. A quick google will reveal if there are lots of complaints about a company, one good way to choose a shop to use is to check out product review sites like mine. Anyone with a serious blog would never recommend a dodgy company to their readers. Using an affiliate link on your favourite blog site will also give the author a small commission on any sale. This doesn't cost you anything extra but can really help bloggers offset the costs of their sites.

If you have a partner involve them in your choice of a sex toy, it can help bring you closer together and even spice up your sex life a bit.

Shopping in a high street sex shop

Modern high street sex shops are clean and inviting places where you can often get good advice and most carry a large selection of stock. The biggest plus point with shopping in person is you can see the size, colour, weight and performance of the type of sex toys you are interested in.

Most sex shops will let you test vibrators out by switching them on and touching them to your nose. I know that this sounds weird but you can actually get a very good indication as to a vibrators power through the tip of your nose. If it makes you sneeze then great LOL, buy it.

Testing sex toys out like this is also great for getting an idea as to how noisy they are, vibrators vary in their noise output and go from whisper quiet to council road workers jack hammer. Choose one that suits your own circumstances.

Take your partner along with you, you can use each other for support and courage and choosing sex toys together is actually a very positive thing to do.

Ask about the returns policy before buying a toy in a shop. The staff are all generally helpful and not creepy and they will answer any questions you have.

General points to consider

Research the sort of vibrators that interest you, read reviews and try to come up with a shortlist of choices that you can then shop around for. Consider buying a waterproof vibrator as you can then use it in the shower or bath, using it in a shower can often cover the noise of the vibrator and it is a very pleasant thing to experience.

Look for a vibrator with several vibration patterns rather than a one speed one, trust me you will thank me later for that snippet of advise. If you are over 40 you may need stronger vibrations to get yourself off so consider a wand type vibrator, these vibrators are very powerful but can be a bit noisy so your circumstances will dictate whether or not they are right for you.

If you are sexually inexperienced and want to use the vibrator for penetrative fun as well choose something slim so that you stay inside your comfort zone, if you are a size queen then let your imagination run wild.

Cleaning sex toys

Spare a thought as to how you clean your sex toy, this is very important as a dirty toy can harbour bacteria that can give you an infection. You can use an antibacterial sex toy cleaner or just soap and water. Make sure you take care if your toy is not waterproof when cleaning it. Always clean your toy prior to placing it back in storage, firstly it's more hygienic this way and secondly the toy is ready to use straight away when the moods strikes you again.

The biggest thing to remember is that there is nothing dirty, degrading or wrong with using sex toys, they are just another way to enhance your own pleasure and enjoyment. Get out there and believe me, once you have bought your first vibrator masturbation will never be the same again - and that's in a good way.

I hope you enjoy your first vibrator and if you found this article useful I'd love to hear from you so drop me a note using the comment form below.

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Joanne Summers

I am an award winning married mother of two who loves getting off with all manner of Sex Toys but has a soft spot for Fucking Machines and Sex Machines (I bet you can guess where that soft spot is). I am also rather fond of E-Stim or Electrosex play. I love reviewing all manner of sex toys and lubes so join me on my quest for ever kinkier orgasms.

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